My Journey to the Altar ~ 11 Things We Cut

Image Credit: Kreative Eye Studios

Image Credit: Kreative Eye Studios

When I first started with the planning process, I came across a blog post about the things that guests do not really care about and it really got me thinking back to the weddings that I have attended. When it comes to weddings there are so many “traditions” and it can be tough to navigate them all. It is also not necessary to honor every single one of them, as the origin of some of them do not always translate to the 21st century. After thinking long and hard, here are the things that we will be ditching, and why!

Save the Dates

We knew our wedding date and time, so why spend the extra money on printing and postage?

Extravagant Invitations

Honestly, after the wedding day, invitations usually end up in the garbage. We also figured that if we are inviting people to our wedding, they most likely know what we look like. So, we figured all we needed was a piece of paper with the important information, and if we were not getting images on the invites, then we did not need to spend extra on a quality print job. Our total for 80 invitations, envelopes, printing, and postage - $100

Bouquet Toss and Garter Toss

Why would I want to throw away my gorgeous wedding bouquet! I want to keep that for me and have my mom dry the flowers out while I am on my honeymoon! Collin also opted out of the garter toss, which I am ok with!

Guest Favors

Every single wedding that I have been to, I have only noticed about 25% of people take home the favors! Favors take a lot of time and, usually, money and being left with most of them at the end of the night is disheartening. To be honest, I do not have a single favor that remains in my house from any weddings that I have attended.


Generally everyone knows the goings on at a wedding. You show up and sit down, the bride and groom get hitched, there is a reception where you eat and drink and celebrate with the newlyweds. Instead, we plan on having a large chalkboard with the names of the bridal party and the times of the major events.


Of course I will have a bouquet made by one of the local flower shops, but instead of spending the national average of $1,600 on flowers for the bridesmaids and tables, we are going to buy Babies Breath in bulk from Costco and make the bouquets and boutonnieres for the bridal party as well as throw a few bunches into painted mason jars for the tables. Our total flower budget compared to the average ($1,600) - $400

Kids in the Bridal party

Between the two of us, we have 7 nieces and nephews and the thought of choosing two of them over the others was very heart wrenching. Not only that, but most weddings that I photograph, the kids, although so friggen cute, are always grumpy during photos and need a nap which results in them being in about 3 photos and leaving to nap before the reception.

Plus ones for our single friends and family

Not only do we have limited space at our venue, but we want our friends and family to be engaged in the day rather than sitting in a corner with their guest who knows no one. Unless in a relationship over 3 months, we did not put a +1 on their invitation.

Wedding Cake

I am very lucky to have an aunty who is pretty good with cakes! She is going to make us a smaller cake for the head table and cake cutting, and then we will have a rice crispy bar for everyone else. Most weddings that I have been to, most people do not eat the cake anyway. And who doesn’t love an extra gooey rice crispy square?!

Plates, Cutlery and Cups

Paper plates, plastic cutlery, white solo cups. Real plates and glasses are beautiful, but the cost was astronomical and we did not want to deal with the clean up.

Wedding Website

To be honest, I did create one when we first got engaged and was so excited for it. But after thinking about it I decided to cross it off the list. I did not want to update it and I didn't want to have to put the site address on all of our wedding invitations, as our invites were super simple and uncluttered.

A Seating Plan

The one I am currently debating on is a seating plan. I hear that it is the one task that is the hardest thing to do for a lot of couples. I am thinking of just reserving 2 tables for immediate family members and then leaving the other tables for everyone else. Honestly, everyone attending is smart and can figure it out. Plus, dinner lasts about 1.5 hours and then most people are dancing, mingling and standing around. Is 1.5 hours really worth the headache?

What are your thoughts? What are some things that you did a little differently with your wedding? I would love to hear!